Tuesday, 27 August 2013

Anger and Air Rage

Air rage is so prevalent in today's stressed out society that someone has even written a book about it called 'Air Rage: Crisis in the Skies'.

Even in todays BBC news the Civil Aviation Authority reports five examples of air rage on flights from Northern Ireland to England in the last two years, and further examples of air rage on flights in and out of Liverpool's John Lennon airport.

The global picture shows an increase in air rage, and markedly so after 9/11. Mike Fisher founder of the British Association of Anger Management says 'I imagine across the planet there's definitely an increase and I think it is partly to do with the amount of alcohol that is actually consumed on airline travel, coupled with all the anxieties and stresses of travelling in the first place.'

With alcohol served on demand, its inevitable that passengers become stressed, angry, unruly and ultimately violent.

Though alcohol is not the only culprit to blame. China suffers from an increase in air rage because their planes aren't on time. It would seem that even though they spend billions on building the world's biggest and best airports, they can't keep to a schedule. With only 18% of flights out of Beijing's Capital airport departing on time, its easy to see why passengers flip out and go berserk.

What is Air Rage?

Air rage comes in two forms of variety, hostile and emotional. The most common emotion being anger. We all suffer anger at having to wait, anger at bad service, and anger at being squeezed into a confined space. Stressors can build up on an airplane, as much as they can on any mode of transport. Though the unique problem with an airplane over a train is that you can't evict passengers from an airplane. I heard a story today about a lady who became so hysterical on a flight she had to be restrained in a straight jacket. In fact, crew routinely carry restraining shackles just in case now.

Lets delve deeper.

Once you look into the symptoms of air travel, a different picture emerges.

The very first thing that happens to us once we settle into our flight is the altitude change. We've all heard of altitude sickness. At the extreme it can be life threatening. So when the cabin quickly pressurizes to 10,000 feet above sea level, the body reacts by becoming dehydrated. Airline pilots often complain of dry and flaky skin, proving that when the body is repeatedly subjected to such drastic altitude changes, the effects become chronic.

The Journal of Environmental Health Research reports that air travel increases the risk of catching a cold by 100 times because of the recycled air. If someone is sick and coughs his germs in first class, every passenger on that plane will breathe them in too.

An unseen danger of flying that many people are unaware of, is the radiation from cosmic rays which are concentrated at high altitudes. Its so high that one international flight will supply a hit of radiation equivalent to one chest x-ray.

Then there is the dreaded deep vein thrombosis (DVT), where the symptom of sitting in the same position for hours plus dehydration, greatly increases the risk of blood clots.

Last but not least is jet lag. The transitition from one time zone to another causes fatigue, memory loss, insomnia and even psychotic or mood disorders.

No wonder cases of air rage are on the increase. Flying is dangerous business.

Three easy steps to beat air rage and the symptoms of air travel.
  1. Move around. Try to get an aisle seat and stretch and move your legs often, and take trips to the bathroom even if you don’t have to go.
  1. Drink water, not alcohol. Its goes without saying that water hydrates the body while alcohol dehydrates.
  1. Read Mike Fisher's book 'Beating Anger' and learn the eight-point plan for coping with rage.
Air rage is on the increase but it doesn't mean you must suffer it too.

Check out Mike Fisher's British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) websites at www.stressexperts.co.uk, www.beatinganger.com and www.angerguru.com. They offer practical advice in beating anger and stress. Get in touch, Mike would love to hear from you.

Stress in the workplace

Stress in the work place is an ‘epidemic’ shouts the Independent newspaper’s headline. Statistics are plentiful and well researched by such institutions as the Health & Safety Executive, the MIND charity, to the Sainsbury Centre for Mental Health.
The reality is that stress at work is the single biggest cause of sickness in the UK, with the occupations worst affected being nurses, teachers and care workers. Middle management seem to be the firing line the most, having stress poured on them from above and thrown up from below.
No doubt we each have a story of someone totally loosing their temper at work and going berserk. The stressors are too numerous to count. Harassment from bosses and colleagues, to a computer that doesn’t work as fast as you want it to, to a colleague with annoying habits, to a boss who is constantly on your back to work harder in less time.
A quarter of people say they have quit a job because of an unsupportive manager, while 17% have left because of excessive workloads. Admit it, we have all phoned in sick to avoid work, “Sorry Boss I’ve got stomach bug” is the most common lie, closely followed by “I’ve got a splitting headache”.
If we were to tell the truth, the conversation would be more like “I just can’t cope with coming into work today, I need a day off to recharge my batteries to deal with the long hours, the excessive work load and the bullying I get from you and other colleagues.”
According to the Health & Safety Executive’s survey, over 105 million days are lost to stress each year and which costs UK employers a staggering £1.24 billion annually.
Perhaps the Independent newspaper’s headline is accurate. Stress in the work place really is at epidemic levels.

But what can be done?
Get yourself a job which you really want to do. You will inevitably suffer from stress doing a job you hate. So be brave. If your job is literally making you ill, if you are losing sleep or losing appetite, it really is time to get out and try something different. Its about taking responsibility for your own physical and emotionally well being. No one can do it for you expect yourself.
Avoid making the same mistakes 10 or 20 times. By identifying what drives you crazy and what sends your stress levels sky high, you can better avoid them.
Talk about how you feel. Better communication with your boss and co-workers is the only way to communicate your feelings and needs. Don’t be shy to tell your boss you need help.
Regular exercise is the best way to lift your mood, revitalise yourself and focus both your mind and body on the job at hand.
Healthy eating reduces stress in so many ways. Click here to read a blog about how eating habits affect stress levels, from the www.stressexperts.co.ukwebsite. Its beneficial to understand how low blood sugar can make you feel anxious and irritable.
Don’t drink so much. Again, I recommend you read yet another blog from the www.stressexperts.co.uk website on ‘Alcohol and Stress’ here. Alcohol simply numbs your feelings of anxiety and stress but does nothing towards eliminating them. As pointed out in the ‘Alcohol and Stress’ blog, ‘The evidence is clear, alcohol enhances your stress and often, with too much, pushes you over the edge.’
And last but not least, get enough sleep. Even though stress causes insomnia, a lack of sleep adds to the vicious circle and leaves you vulnerable to even more stress. After a good night’s sleep, you will find yourself able to cope with workplace stress better. The age old advice of 8 hours sleep is still valid in todays hectic life-styles.
Remember that Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) has more than 17 years experience, helping over 16,000 people deal with their stress and anger. He doesn’t guarantee to get rid of your stress but he does guarantee to teach you the tools to combat your stress and teaches you the practical tools to understand and deal with your stress.
Check out www.stressexperts.co.uk , www.beatinganger.com and www.angermanage.co.uk for more information and get in touch.
You’ll be amazed by just how much you’ll learn.

C.O.A.S.T Your Way to Staying Calm and Stress Free

Definition of coasting!!!!

1 . Move easily without using power.
2 . Act or make progress without making much effort.
Managing stress should be as easy and effortless …
C. Co-operate with others
We all know a problem shared is a problem halved. This is true in keeping calm and stress free too. Co-operation with others is essential to any project. Great projects are completed by teamwork and can’t be achieved alone. Together we can achieve great things, work more efficiently, and to everyone’s benefit. The essential part of any anger management programme is to co-operate with others by using a support network of a group of people, who you can call on to talk to and co-operate with, in your hour of need. Co-operation is an integral tool in keeping calm and stress free.
O. Be observant and objective
‘Stop, think, take a look at the bigger picture’ is the first Rule of Anger Management. It’s about being aware before reacting to a situation. People tend to deal with stressful situations on an emotional level. Lost in the ‘Red Mist’, you will more often than not find yourself in a police cell waiting for your solicitor to bail you out, when you could have stopped, thought about it, and looked at the bigger picture before reacting emotionally and getting yourself in trouble. It’s about being in the present moment and being aware of what is transpiring around you.
A. Attitude
Watch your attitude, and remember empathy does get results. It’s so easy to resort back to the mentality of our childhoods when we are angry and stressed. Maturity flies out of the window and our empathy is thrown out with it. Remember empathy does get results, try it, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and your attitude will inevitably change. Try to remember to keep your eye on the goal or the job you’re doing, because a positive attitude can help bring out the best in people and yourself. With the right mental attitude you can change the world.
S. Safe, stay safe
We must be thoughtful to prioritize ourselves and put our own safety first, to ensure the safety of others. After all, if you aren’t safe, your family won’t be. Nobody wants to think they are putting themselves or anyone else in danger, but we do when we are raging, stressed and in a fury. Stress and anger seriously harms the safety of everyone and we must be aware of the danger signs. Stress and anger makes a victim out of all of us and can only be defeated by dealing with the causes of stress and anger head on.
T. Think
Think outside the box, be creative and visualize a positive outcome. Only by being prepared to think outside the box, do you send the signal to your subconscious that you are ready to change your lifestyle. Thinking outside the box opens up a world of endless possibilities and solutions. There is no longer a need to hit your head against the wall in frustration because you would now be exploring the paths and ideas which you otherwise would have dismissed without a second thought. You will become aware of what kept you in the box and you will be free.
C.O.A.S.T – Keeping this simple strategy in mind can make a world of difference.
Mike Fisher, founder of the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) has helped over 16,000 people since 1996 coast themselves to a stress and anger free future.
Why don’t you coast over to www.stressexperts.co.uk , www.beatinganger.com and www.angermanage.co.uk for more information about the BAAM’s anger management services?
It could be the best thing you’ve ever done and will change your life forever.

Moving and Stress

We all have to endure the stress of moving house. Be it to down-grade or up-grade, divorce or a job relocation, moving house is something we must all face at least once or twice in our lives.
Relocating Moving House
With the day indelibly stamped on the calender, you can literally feel the pressure building as it draws closer and closer.
There are so many jobs to do. Packing is the most pressing and then the other one hundred and one things that need to be done too.
Sometimes people stand in shock, as would a deer caught in the headlights, while the ‘moving day’ careers towards them.
Once the day is here, they find themselves suffocated under the mountain of chores and not enough time to do them.
This is where stress and anger rear their ugly heads and what should be a well organised and mature move, turns into a fiasco. Dad shouts and throws the box of crockery to the ground, mum breaks down in tears and hides in a corner, while the kids run off to spend their final hours with friends.
Isn’t it any wonder that moving house can be the most stressful times of our lives.
Even the Guru of Anger Management Mike Fisher, is a victim to the stress of moving. He hates it as much as anyone, but has the tools to deal with it.
This is why, when the challenge of moving comes around, as it often does in life, he’s prepared happy calm and stress free.
Keep in mind these simply tips and you will be too.

  1. Take Mike Fisher’s advice and get someone else to do it for you. Often the most obvious answer is the best answer. If you have the budget, use it to it’s full potential and get someone to pack for you. If you haven’t got the budget, enlist the help of your friends and family. They would love to help because it’ll be an opportunity to spend time with you before the move and share the memories which packing brings.
  2. De-clutter before you move. It clears out unwanted things and results in less stuff to transport. In our materialistic world we are encouraged to hang onto our possessions for as long as we can. Its interesting when clearing through the clutter because you soon come to realise how much you don’t need all that stuff you thought you did. It also helps you make that transition between the past and the future; between one part of your life and the next.
  3. Moving house is the best time to adopt new lifestyle changes.Its the perfect time to dump the old habits and embrace the new. If you have been meaning to start a new fitness regime or a diet, now is the time to do it. With a new home and a new location, its the best time to leave old habits behind and embrace new habits for the future.
  4. Label your boxes. A well prepared and organised move turns stress to eustress. Being well prepared for the challenge destroys the stress of the day, leaving you with eager excitement in getting the job done and the family moved. The simplest tip is to label boxes according to their designated room in the new location. Little tricks here and there make the move go smoothly and creates the perfect stress free atmosphere to enjoy the experience rather than fearing it.
  5. Keep the routine. Its so important for the children in particular, to stick to a routine, while the house is turned upside down and inside out. Its all too easy to skip meals, skip naps and skip appointments. A little bit of stability goes along way to assuring the family that the move is under control and everything is going to plan.
  6. Say good-bye.You may have lived in this house for all your life. It could be the place you grew up as a child, teenager, or adult. Memories would be lurking behind every street corner, park and high street. Take time to revisit these places before you leave. Take time to say goodbye to your neighbours and friends. Wallow in the memories because it may be the last time you visit them.
  7. Prioritise. You won’t be able to do everything at the same time. Prioritising is good preparation. The move has to be enjoyable to make it stress free. This is why its best to prioritise the jobs in scale of importance. Keep a notebook and make lists. Get the easy jobs done first or be heroic and tackle the big jobs first. Remember it’s your move and you make your own priorities.
  8. Embrace your feelings. Talk about how you feel. If you are sad, please share it. If you are excited, do the same. Talk about your feelings to the people you love and trust because in doing so you are sharing your burden and alleviating the stress of the situation.
  9. Take time out. Making sure you are cool calm and collected, is a must for a stress free move. If you feel the pressure building, stop and have a cup of tea. Stop and walk around the neighbourhood. Moving house is recognised as one of the most stressful things you will do in life, so don’t fight it. Taking care of yourself is a golden rule of stress relief.
  10. Take your time. Give yourself 8 to 12 weeks to move house. Its in the top ten most stressful things to do in a life-time for a reason. You must give yourself the breathing space to get it right. As Mike Fisher says, ‘start early.’
Mike Fisher is the founder of the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) and runs weekend workshops and a wealth of other services, developed to help anyone beat anger and stay stress free.
For more information about Mike Fisher and B.A.A.M, check out his websites www.stressexperts.co.uk , www.beatanger.com and www.angermanage.co.uk

Stress On The Tube

Underground can be stressful …
Would you ever imagine that taking a trip on the London underground could be more stressful than going into battle as a fighter pilot or confronting a charging crowd as a policeman in full riot gear?
Well its true, in fact its ‘extremely stressful’…
A recent survey part-funded by technology firm Hewlett Packard, reveals 80% of passengers feel stressed whilst travelling on the tube and while a fighter pilot or a riot policeman has a choice to turn around; tube passengers are stuck inside a giant metal worm racing through the ground with no choice but to grin and bear the journey whether they want to or not.
On average a commuter would spend 3 hours a day travelling to and from work. That’s 15 hours a week, which is 750 hours per year, which comes to 31.25 days a year…that means one can spend a whole month of their year doing nothing but commuting.
Studies have found that people enter a near zombie state of mind in which they forget whole periods of the journey.
The stress is just too much and while trapped in inescapable confinement, the mind literally switches off to combat itself against the stress of the journey and the anger it creates.
How often do you subconsciously ‘psyche’ yourself up before entering its subterranean world? Mentally preparing yourself for the discomfort of an overcrowded journey is enough to send anyone’s blood pressure soaring.
The London underground is a dangerous place indeed. With 100-150 suicide deaths a year its easy to see why.
As the blood pressure soars, the link between stress and health becomes all too evident. Its only prudent to take steps to alleviate the stress of commuting on the tube as best as you can.
Here are 10 handy tips to help you.
  1. The most easiest solution is to read a book whilst the miles speed by.
  2. Or even better yet, sort it out with your boss to work from home.
  3. Travelling outside of the rush hour is always a good idea.
  4. Walking part of the journey is the best way to wash the stress of the journey out the system, before turning up for work revitalised and ready to go.
  5. Pre-pay with an Oyster card and avoid the rush hour push of 500 commuters against your back.
  6. Take a nap.
  7. Be chivalrous. You’ll be amazed how good it feels being the one to get up for the pregnant lady.
  8. Listen to music.
  9. Or be really brave and strike up a conversation with the person next to you.
  10. Ultimately you can stop using the tube all together and use another mode of transport. Is it time to blow of the cobwebs and get on your bike?

Travelling on the tube doesn’t have to be the dreaded chore which so many of us fear and despise. Make the journey your friend and take control.
Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) is a stress expert who is well aware of stress and anger, and the consquences it has on our lives. Check out his popular websites at www.stressexperts.co.uk , www.beatinganger.com and www.angermanage.co.uk for more information and do get in touch.
Today is the day to beat the stress away.

Monday, 12 August 2013

Stress in Police Service

Stress in the Police Force.

Following the news that Ian Tomlinson’s family has won an apology from the Metropolitan police over his ‘unlawful killing’ in 2009, tells us a lot about the stress and strain facing our modern day police force.

PC Simon Harwood, while in riot gear, struck Ian Tomlinson on the leg with a baton before shoving him violently to the pavement, minutes before his fatal collapse, during the G20 protests.

Having learnt the Simon Harwood had a string of previous disciplinary hearings, makes you question what makes a man lash out with such anger.

As with millions of men and women across the country, anger strikes at any moment and against anyone in the firing line.

It’s a tough job.
The cost of Police stress to the taxpayer is incalculable. Having to save £40m by 2015, more and more job cuts are being announced, and police officers have never felt so under threat. The Metropolitan Police, the largest force in England and Wales, lost 27,437 working days to stress in 2012. 

More shocking is that 8,000 police officers were receiving full salaries while working as little as one hour a day on ‘restrictive or recuperative duties’, due to stress, with a total wage bill of £248 million a year. 

In Essex alone, police officers took 9,139 days off due to stress last year – a sharp rise on the 4,594 sick days recorded in 2010.

Cuts to front-line police officers in Nottinghamshire have resulted in more officers taking time off work with stress, up to 3,806 days lost in 2012, compared to 2,023 in 2008.
Stress in the police force is something we all suffer from.

First Responders.
Police officers suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), as much as the Army, Ambulance, doctors and nursing staff. Responding to traumatic events, such as fatal road traffic accidents, murder scenes and domestic abuse, significantly increases the chances of chronic stress in their lives.

Police & relationships.
With the high levels of stress, come high levels of divorce. The police divorce rates are more than double of the national average, taking into account the shifts police officers work and the dangers they face.

Police Dangers.
Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management teaches us that stress is the cause of anger. Lashing out at a passerby is never condoned but is predictable given the statistics of domestic abuse in the UK alone, affects 1 in 4 women.

Combating Stress in the Police force.
Police chiefs understand the demands on the police service are enormous. They are getting better at identifying what is stressful to its officers and trying to stop these things becoming problems, by addressing their roots causes.

The British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) courses.
Mike Fisher, founder of BAAM has helped over 16,000 people since 1996, by teaching them the tools to control anger and lower stress levels. Police chiefs across the country would be wise to pay attention and police officers would be wise to sign up to Mike’s courses under their own innovative.

For more information about BAAM and their programmes, check out the www.angermanage.co.ukwww.beatinganger.com and www.stressexperts.co.ukwebsites.

The more we understand about stress and anger the more we can protect ourselves and the general public from its unhealthy and often fatal, consequences.

Is Stress Making You Fat?

Stress Eating!!
Recent scientific studies have shown that stress has a direct result on weight, be it over eating or under-eating. Experiments on volunteers at the Cambridge University found serotonin levels affect the amygdale region in the brain, which makes us angry.
Stress Eating Diet EmotionalThe experiments involved recording the brain’s reaction while viewing angry, sad and neutral facial expressions. Feed with diets which either raised the level of serotonin, or lowered it, they were able to conclude that when the body starts to feel hungry, levels of serotonin fall, causing a flux of emotions to burst forward from the amygdale part of the brain which causes us to become anxious, stressed and angry.
The conclusion is quite simple really. To stop your serotonin levels from falling and as a consequence, making us angry and stressed, stock up on foods which boost the serotonin levels, such as pumpkin seeds, walnuts, avocado, dates and bananas.
Making the right food choices?
At a recent British Association of Anger Management intensive weekend course, Mike Fisher commented that all the biscuits were being eaten, while all the fruit wasn’t. This is predictable because when stressed, the body craves food that is high in fat or sugar.
Serotonin is a chemical which makes your body feel good, and this is exactly what we want to feel when we are stressed, angry and depressed. All too often, we’ll reach for the carbohydrates in the form of muffins, doughnuts and biscuits to comfort ourselves, when we should be reaching for fruit and nuts. This is where the conflict arises. When we are stressed we don’t make the best choices and this includes what we eat.
Getting angry and stressed takes up a lot of energy and we eat into our natural reserves. As stress is being linked with weight issues, we need a greater understanding of the connection between stress and weight to combat the obesity epidemic facing the country.
Stress is a part of modern day life and by understanding the mechanics of our minds and bodies, we are more equipped to deal with our stress and see it for what it really is.
What is the connection between stress and blood sugar?
When we are stressed our body works overtime to cope, by releasing a mixture of hormones, namely epinephrine and adrenaline, which gives us the energy to reach the end of the day.
The body also releases glucose which is of special interest to diabetics, because for diabetics the amount of glucose in their blood is too high.
Even though stress hasn’t been proven to cause diabetes, it has been proven to trigger changes in blood sugar levels which can be a problem for people with diabetes.
Mental or emotional stress has mixed effects, depending on the type of diabetes you have. For type 1 diabetes, mental stress can increase or decrease blood sugar levels and for type 2 diabetes, mental stress generally increases blood sugar levels.
Dealing with your stress?
It’s now evident that dealing with stress is the biggest obstacle we have in finding our inner peace and happiness. Stress comes at us from all angles and it’s only natural that the challenge may seem daunting.
But think again: Other than regular exercise, mediation and Mike Fisher’s intensive weekend courses; your diet can play the ultimate role in reducing stress.
Like millions in the UK, we reach for high-fat, high-sugar snacks when we’re feeling down. But don’t think you are alone in doing so. You aren’t. We are all prone to comfort eating.
The good news is that you now have the information to break the cycle and to break the habit.
It really is as simple as making better food choices.
Find out further how to minimize the stress in your life by visiting Mike Fisher’s British Association of Anger Management websites such aswww.angermanage.co.ukwww.stressexperts.co.uk and www.beatinganger.com.
By focusing on your diet and the choices you make when you are angry and stressed, you can change your life, beat stress and keep your figure in shape.

Monday, 5 August 2013

When stress is good for you?

According to Mike Fisher’s ‘Beating Anger’ book, there are two forms of stress, eustress and distress, healthy and potentially destructive.

While most of us see stress in negative terms, a small amount of it helps us achieve a high performance and can actually be good for health.

High flying executives working in high pressures jobs strive on eustress and wouldn’t choose to live without it. It motivates people to do their very best and triggers an alarm in their subconscious if they aren’t working to their peak performance.

It could even be argued that eustress is fundamental for living fully. Without it our lives could become meaningless. We wouldn’t care about goals or overcoming challenges. Without eustress we may not have a reason to get out of bed in the morning.

Eustress has become a term used to describe the feeling of, for example, inheriting a large sum of money or receiving an unexpected promotion.

Imagine you won the lottery… For the next few months you will be under eustress as you decide what to do with your millions. It’s the kind of stress you’ll gladly welcome with open arms, as you decide what to invest in first.

Eustress motivates you to be more than you ever imagined. Eustress is winning the promotion and then having to deliver the goods.

Eustress is the stress of winning and achieving, while destructive stress on the other hand, is distress. It’s related to being overwhelmed, becoming depressed and not coping.
Distress de-motivates us, wear and tears us down and can lead to chronic exhaustion. Unchecked distress leads to fatigue (chronic stress), which in turn, becomes a trigger for anger and in turn affects your safety, health, wealth and relationships.

Distress is what keeps you in bed unwilling to get up to tackle the day. It reinforces your low self esteem and makes you feel as if your life is a disaster area, you’re wasting your life away and that the world is against you.

How to get more?
Too much of a good thing eventually becomes unhealthy … But don’t let that deter you. If stress is inevitable in our daily life, it only makes sense to strategically take what you need and discard the rest.
A simple way to build eustress and dump distress is to cut out the things you do which drain and exhaust you.
Choose the things in life which nourish you and increase your happiness.
One way to decide what is a eustress or distress activity is simply to recognize your feelings towards it. Do you feel excited about doing it? Or is it a ‘want to’ activity as compared to a ‘have to’ activity?
Mike Fisher
We all experience distress and eustress. It’s become an unavoidable part of modern day life. However, as Mike Fisher points out, the trick is to maintain a balance between positive and negative stress in our lives.

Boundary Setting
It’s a matter of making yourself the biggest priority in your own life! Being courageous enough to say ‘no thanks, that’s far too stressful for me’, and instead say ‘Wow, that sounds challenging, I’ll give it a go,’ is an ideal tool in dumping distress and taking onboard eustress.

Notice how you feel and listen carefully to your intuition. If a task gives you a deflated, scared and loathsome feeling, then it usually means the task will only add to your distress and bring on its common symptoms, where-as, if the task gives you butterflies and an excited nervousness in the pit of your stomach, then you’ve cracked it. You’ve discarded distress and replaced it with eustress.
Well done. 

How to change distress into eustress?
There is no magic formula, but you can change your perception of what stress is and shift its perception to change its experience.
Stress is a reaction to perceived threat. Hence the logic says that if you don’t perceive something as a threat, then there will be no stress responding to it.
Changing your perception of threats to challenges, changes distress to eustress. Only by taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture, can you see threats as potential benefits to be exploited and used for your own benefit.
Once you start policing your thoughts, you’ll come to look at things as challenges more often.
So to recap, it’s important to have eustress in your life. The effort is to cut out as much distress as possible by changing our perception of stress, and adding positive activities to our lives which promote eustress.

As with everything in life, it’s about balance.

What to do next?
Beating stress and knowing the difference between eustress and distress has become a science. Though relax. Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management has spent the last 16 years perfecting the tools to beat stress and having helped over 16,000 people and still counting, I couldn’t recommend you more to check out his websites www.stressexperts.co.uk and www.beatinganger.com for more practical advice on beating stress and anger.